"You got stuck but you didn't stop trying."
"You made a mistake when playing for others but you kept going."
"It was a hard piece to learn but you didn't give up."
I like how my children learn and practise being insightful and generous with their encouragement for their classmates. But I have to admit that I sometimes wonder if they are just saying it because they have to?
Then today, I heard this:
6 year-old (to our dog): "Naughty dog!"
10 year-old: "You mustn't say that to her!"
Me: "Why can't you say 'Naughty dog'?"
10 year-old (expressing deep shock): "MUMMY! You have to use POSITIVE REINFORCEMENT!"
And that is how I know that they are truly learning.
They emulate what we demonstrate.